Being Authentic When Are You Not

Being Authentic: Where Are You Not?

As my business continues to evolve, I continue to look for a better answer to what’s the point of what I’m doing?

As much as I dislike the word “authentic”, it turns out that’s what I’m doing. I want to bring out the authentic you, the part of you that is bright and shiny, instead of the toned down matte version of you.

To be even more precise, I want to help you know yourself on a deep level, because there is no authenticity if you don’t know who you are.

I’ve been wondering why we carry around the not so authentic version of ourselves, even though we know there is someone more beautiful and awesome inside (myself included)?

It’s so simple… because our egos are really good at hiding it. And our egos kind of live on that mask we wear, otherwise the ego doesn’t have a job to do. But let’s not dwell in the why.

In this post I want to share some food for thought about when we are not being authentic, in the most subtle ways. Being authentic is not something that only matters for the big stuff in life, the little things add up.

  • That time when you walked by some guy handing out flyers and you really didn’t want one, but you took it anyway. You crumpled it up and threw it away at the next street corner, or you stuffed it into your purse and took it home with you. Either way, it’s a subtle way of not being authentic. Instead of saying, “No, thank you,” you took something that you didn’t actually want.
  • I witnessed a woman ask another passenger to switch seats with her on a plane, so she can sit with her son. The other woman said “Ok… although I really wanted the aisle seat.” She did it reluctantly, but she switched and ended up in the middle seat. She was nice, but she wasn’t being authentic to herself.
  • The other night when my husband said he wanted Mediterranean food, I said ok. What I really wanted was Chinese food… but I didn’t say anything about it. I was ok with Mediterranean, so I went along. I didn’t necessarily have to change the outcome, but swallowing my words wasn’t being authentic.

Whoever is careless with the truth in small matters cannot be trusted with important matters.
— Albert Einstein

There are a million, tiny, little ways that we aren’t being authentic throughout the day. They aren’t really big enough to hit our radar on their own. But when you add them all up, we start disappearing and forgetting who we are because our authentic self has been hiding.

I offered a few little stories here to get you thinking about what are the little (and maybe large) ways that you haven’t been authentic.

Share your stories and what you notice below.

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  1. Good food for thought. It’s interesting to become aware of the small and seemingly insignificant ways in which we allow ourselves to dismiss our truth. Watching a movie you don’t want to see and calling it compromise. Staying too long at a party you’re not enjoying yourself in to be nice (or attending in the first place if you didn’t want to go)… I’ll have to keep an eye out for this.

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