“You have to ask your heart – do you want it?”
Hi, I’m Mandy. I’m a finance professional turned certified coach. Kind of a 180 right?
Here’s the story:
I had a cookie-cutter successful life: 2 master’s degrees, the 6-figure corporate job in finance, nice apartment in New York City, and a loving husband.
There was just one problem, I was miserable.
I had lived my entire life following the “right” path:
✓Getting good grades
✓Going to good schools
✓Getting good jobs
I followed every single step to the T. Every step. Then, 30 years later into this thing we call life I was hit with a painful truth: I was doing things that I didn’t think mattered to the world. I wasn’t happy. I wasn’t fulfilled. And to be honest I sank into a pretty dark depression for awhile.
The world had lost its color, and everything felt so pointless, mundane, and BLAH. I felt stuck and alone, and I knew if things didn’t change that life wasn’t worth living. I was ready to throw everything away, including my own life.
Years later (because hindsight is 20/20) I realized what went wrong. I had never considered what I wanted to do or what makes me happy.
I had been conditioned by our culture to forget about my dreams.
Whenever someone told me “just do what you love and follow your passion,” I wanted to smack them in the face. Passion? What’s that? It seemed so simple, yet so unattainable. I knew everyone had a “thing”: a talent, calling, purpose, etc., but I’d never been able to grasp mine even though I’d been searching for it my entire life.
Everyone in my life thought I had career ADD. I quit graduate school because it wasn’t a good fit for me. I fell into consulting and finance, and then changed 3 jobs in 4 years. I had a killer resume, but I never (not once) was excited to get up in the morning to go to work.
Yet, I continued to stay in a job that made me feel empty inside. For years. And I was more miserable than ever. And this misery bled all over every area of my life. I didn’t just hate my job, I hated my husband, I hated New York City, and I hated living my life.
I was turning into the most bitter and angry person I knew, I couldn’t stand being around me. Ironically, my career was skyrocketing with credentials, promotions, and achievements.
On the outside, I had made it and I was living the dream. On the inside, I was dying an accelerated death.
Something had to change. Or maybe everything had to change. I had no idea. I was desperate and I was willing to try anything in an attempt to find happiness.
So I asked the universe to show me a sign. I pleaded: “Please help me. I don’t know who I am.”
And the universe answered. I met the person who became my coach under the most unlikely circumstance. The person who asked a question that changed my life, and that to this day is THE QUESTION that I live by every single day.
She said: “You have to ask your heart – do you want it?”
It felt like I was hearing that voice in my heart for the first time. I hadn’t let it speak for so long that I felt like I had given up on it completely. But in that moment, I knew exactly what she meant.
I was scared. I was unsure. I had no idea what I was getting myself into. But I knew deep down I was meant to do this.
So I took the biggest leap of faith in my life.
Are You a Good Fit for 1:1 Coaching With Me?
:: Feel unhappy, unmotivated, and bitter, and desperately want a change?
:: Have something life-changingly good inside you called “passion,” but it’s killing you not knowing what it is?
:: Want to stop hating your job? And numbing yourself with that bottle of wine you open as soon as your work day is done?
:: Look forward to bragging about how much you love what you do and how proud you are of it?
I was there. I’ve been through years of windy convoluted soul searching to find myself. Trust me, I’ve made the mistakes, so you don’t have to.
Fun Facts About Me…
- I’m a practical woo-woo. I bring healing into my coaching because the universe is so much more powerful than you or me.
- I’m an artist. I consciously create my life the same way I create any other piece of art. Coaching is one of the ways I spread my creative energy, while we co-create the life that you love.
- I was born in Hong Kong, grew up in Canada, Chinese on the outside and British on the inside eh. I moved every 4 years in my life, until I settled in New York City. This is the first place I have ever felt at home.
- I fear, but I also trust. I believe I’m infinite (and so are you). And the universe conspires to make shit happen for us, if we allow it.
- I love what I do! For the first time in my life, I feel ALIVE! And my favorite part is you, seeing you fall in love with life, and seeing you come alive is what makes it worthwhile.
Everyone Of Us is Here to Live a Meaningful Life –
It’s Not Just a Privilege for the Lucky Ones. Are You Ready?
If you’re anything like I used to be, you’re crippled by the fear of waking up 20 years from now regretting that you haven’t lived. Part of you thinks you will do this one day, but this is not the right time. You can try to convince yourself that it’s not that bad and it’s ok to wait, or you can take charge and make this YOUR life, NOW!
I became a clarity coach because I know the immense power this one-on-one, heart-to-heart coaching has to offer. And trust me when I say I had some BIG reservations before I started my own journey.
If any of this is ringing true to you, I urge you to schedule your free 30-minute discovery session. You’ll get a taste of what coaching with me is like, and we’ll find out if we’re a good fit together. Because spaces are limited, I only work with people who are truly open to discovering a whole new way of living.